I week from now I will be one year older and I’m not sure how much wiser. Here is what I do know that I have learned over my 44 years of life…people are simple. You can put everyone that you encounter, everyone that you know into one of two categories, “Can’t Do or Won’t Do.”
This is something that I picked up in my former corporate life as a leader of people. What I found is that everyone I interviewed, everyone that I worked with or who worked for me would fit into one of these two categories. One is good to have in your circle and unfortunately one is bad for you and your life pursuits.
I will tell you about the “Can’t Do” person first because this is the type of individual that you will want to have on your team, as a friend and ultimately as a mate. Of course the family members who don’t fall into the “Can’t Do” category you just have to find a way to limit the access that you give them to your life…sorry. The “Can’t Do” person is simply someone who may or may not be capable of doing what you ask them to do but is more than willing to learn. That person just needs to be told or shown what it is you need and then they magically transform into someone who can and will do what is required.
When you are a leader in your chosen profession you will need to build your team and or department with “Can’t Do” types of people because the more of them that you find the easier your job of leading them will be. Just imagine how simple life can be when all you have to do is show your team how it’s done and then let them out into the world to be productive.
The benefits of having these same types of people as friends or as a mate or spouse is obvious. Just imagine you had a friend who invited you over to their home for dinner. Because of health concerns, you need some adjustments made to the food that will be served that evening. The type of friend that you need in this instance is one where making a change to your entrée begins as a “Can’t Do” but ends as a can do/will do.
The person that you need to identify as quickly as possible is the “Won’t Do” person. This individual knows exactly what you want done, exactly what is required and just refuses to do it. Just imagine you were forming a basketball team at the gym or the office. And right before you were going to pick a person they said, “hey, I’m not going to dribble, I’m not going to pass and I’m not going to shoot the basketball.” Is there any way in hell you still go ahead and pick this person? The truth is we do it all the time and then we suffer for it and then we ask ourselves how did this happen.
Take a moment right now to make an inventory of the relationships in your life and ask yourself how many “Won’t Do” people do I have there. When you think about it, these individuals have no positive existence in your life and if you cannot eliminate them totally from your life you should, at the very least, limit their access to your everyday world.
Lyn Medearis
Never Played The Game 